You’re Exhausted and Unhappy. It’s Time to Let Go.
“We don’t let go of anything until we have exhausted all the possible ways that we might keep holding on to it.” - William Bridges
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Chip Conley's daily blog: Thoughts on the art of living
“We don’t let go of anything until we have exhausted all the possible ways that we might keep holding on to it.” - William Bridges
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As many of you know, we’ve been brainstorming how to create MEA Regenerative Communities, a 21st-century multi-generational alternative to the archaic 20th-century retirement community. Our co-founder Jeff Hamaoui has been pioneering this effort with Baja Sage, not far from our MEA campus, and some of you are planning on buying a home there.
Each year, Money magazine publishes its well-known top 10 “best places to retire.” And, each year, I scratch my head wondering about their criteria. It’s not that I quarrel with lovely places like Madison, Wisconsin, Boise, Idaho, or Asheville, North Carolina.
The space in between, Neither in nor out, Not one thing or the other, The one left out?
The title says it all. "Don't You (Forget About Me)" is a song by Simple Minds and played during the opening and closing credits of the John Hughes film The Breakfast Club. For many of us, that movie was the Pièce De Résistance of films defining our generation - Generation X.
Much like today, eighteen years ago, San Francisco was in a world of hurt. The combination of the dot-com bust, 9/11, and a recession meant “The City” was having a crisis of confidence. Nowhere was that more evident than in the hotel industry which was preparing for a battle royale with the local hotel union as it was time to negotiate a new contract while we were at the bottom of a ditch.
As we get older, time becomes a luxury. Yet, I still play a decades-long game of believing a full calendar makes me a worthy human. During COVID, I learned how to trick my age-old habit of filling up every sliver of my day.
Would be interested in your perspective on this New York Times article focusing on Joe Biden’s wisdom. I don’t bring it up to be political, as Wisdom Well does its best not to venture into political waters very often.
As discussed in yesterday’s post, one of the most valuable modern skills we can learn is how to master transitions in a world that is constantly changing. It’s not something that we learned in high school or college. It’s not something that your company formally teaches you.
Change is situational. Transition is psychological. If all you have to show from the trainwreck we refer to as 2020 is a desire for change, you may not be turning this past year’s crises into an opportunity. You can change a spouse, a boss, a friend, but - if you carry your baggage with you - you may find that you’re living “Groundhog Day” as your next spouse, boss, or friend just triggers you in all the same ways.
When something becomes “second nature,” it’s instinctive and natural. And, to “nurture” is the process of caring for and encouraging the growth or development of someone or something.
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